Draft- Coparenting – SoWhat/What – PSP NET

Draft- Coparenting – SoWhat/What

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Marital conflict have negative effects on children, due to ineffective parent-child communication, and child’s attributions for negative parental behaviours.

Parental conflict has been shown to determine child security.


Having children commonly results in increased marital conflict, studies show there is a drop in marital quality for 40-70% of couples after the birth of children. Having children can result in couples reverting to stereotypical gender roles with fathers withdrawing into their work, and conversations and intimacy decreasing considerably.

Gottman and Notarius, 2000.

Role overload on non-PSP parents may be heightened at the beginning of their partner’s policing careers, when rotational shift work and mandatory time are particularly necessary. Rotating shifts, unscheduled overtime, and unpredictable call-ins place an unequal share of responsibility for childcare and managing the household on the non-PSP parent, resulting in competing demands. Often:

  • Children felt anger toward their PSP parent because of their frequent absences
  • Children miss their PSP parent during holidays and weekends
  • Children felt that the PSP parent are emotionally unavailable
  • Spouses feel left out and their personal needs are less important
  • Spouses feel like “single parent”

Parenting as a team

Coparenting is a strategy by which parents coordinate their child-rearing practices, with partners reinforcing one another in child-rearing activities. Although this is supportive in nature, it can also be antagonistic, when partners are inconsistent in parenting, or undermine each other’s parenting efforts.

*Fathers who work shift work are able to be at home in the daytime, and can often take on more childcare responsibilities than fathers who work standard hours. Rotating shifts can also help make arranging childcare easier – however, this tag-team parenting may come with sacrificing couple time, and only works when there is no overlap.


Challenges of coparenting

Coparenting may become more difficult when there are also marital issues, including disagreements, parents withdrawing or a lack of communication, with competing demands and gender inequality at bay.

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