Draft- Coparenting – SoWhat/What3 – PSP NET

Draft- Coparenting – SoWhat/What3


Marital conflict have negative effects on children, due to ineffective parent-child communication, and child’s attributions for negative parental behaviours; parental conflict has been shown to determine child security.

Having children commonly results in increased marital conflict, studies show there is a drop in marital quality for 40-70% of couples after the birth of children. Having children can result in couples reverting to stereotypical gender roles with fathers withdrawing into their work, and conversations and intimacy decreasing considerably.

Gottman and Notarius, 2000.

Role overload on non-PSP parents may be heightened at the beginning of their partner’s policing careers, when rotational shift work and mandatory time are particularly necessary. Rotating shifts, unscheduled overtime, and unpredictable call-ins often place an unequal share of responsibility for childcare and managing the household on the non-PSP house, resulting in competing demands, with many partners of PSPs are left to feel like “single parents”

Children felt anger toward their PSP parent because of their frequent absencesChildren miss their PSP parent during holidays and weekends
Spouses feel left out and their personal needs are less importantFelt that the PSP parent are emotionally unavailable

Parenting as a team

*Fathers who work shift work are able to be at home in the daytime, and can often take on more childcare responsibilities than fathers who work standard hours. Rotating shifts can also help make arranging childcare easier – however, this tag-team parenting may come with sacrificing couple time, and only works when there is no overlap.

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