Quick Exit

Household Tasks

Topics: Family



Open communication about expectations and responsibilities within the household is important. The division of labour needs to be understood and renegotiated periodically, especially when there are changes to family members’ schedules.  


Things to consider…
  • Having a family discussion about the division of household responsibilities.
  • Working as a team to get things done.
  • Asking children to contribute to the household (in an age-appropriate way). 
  • Outsourcing household tasks (e.g., house cleaning, lawn care).  
Do you want to know more about this?

Recognition and appreciation of the ways that family members contribute to the household can reduce conflict. Many PSP families have busy households with a lot of demands on their time. Identifying and sharing household tasks can ensure that families also have time for leisure and rest.

Family Meetings

A planned meeting as a couple/family can be an effective way to connect and make plans. You can use this time to discuss the division of household responsibilities and renegotiate if needed (see Household Tasks List below). It can also be a time to check in regarding how everyone is doing/feeling. You can make upcoming family plans, show appreciation to one another, or share exciting news or concerns. Family meetings are also opportunities to practice speaking and listening skills.

To have meetings that suit your family’s unique needs, consider the following: 

  • Scheduling meetings ahead of time (e.g., weekly, biweekly, monthly). 
  • Allowing any member to call an additional meeting on short notice if needed. 
  • Agreeing on what a person needs to do to call a meeting. 
  • Having a back-up plan if someone cannot attend (e.g., called into work). 
  • Including something fun in each meeting (e.g., game, treat, music). 
  • Checking in at the start of each meeting to find out what members want to address.  
  • Discussing the process for family problem solving and decision making.  
  • Keeping notes from the meetings so you can track family goals.  
  • Including moments to express appreciation and gratitude.  

Once you have you have decided on the frequency of meetings and have considered everyone’s availability, schedule your meetings and make a commitment to attend. After each meeting, talk about what went well and potential changes for upcoming meetings.  

Household Tasks LisT

Together, make a list of all your household tasks (e.g., housework, preparing meals, vehicle maintenance, children’s activities, appointments, managing finances, etc.). Note the specific responsibilities within each area, how long it typically takes to complete the task, and how often the task needs to be completed. The purpose of this exercise is to work toward dividing household tasks in a way that is a good fit for your family and your current situation. This is a chance to review the division of labour within your family to see if anything needs to shift or change. 

When creating your list together, discuss: 

  • If there are household tasks you enjoy doing or prefer. 
  • Which tasks are a priority, and which can wait. 
  • Which tasks are daily, weekly, monthly, or seasonal. 
  • How “well” a task should be done to be considered complete. 
  • Who is currently doing each task. 

Here is an example of household tasks to consider:

Below is a template for creating a Household Tasks List. You may want to create a customized list and display it where it can be viewed by the whole family. Use the download button to save and print your list.


DOWNLOAD: Household Tasks List

References for this page (click to expand)

Goldsmith, B. (2012, September 5). 10 tips for holding a family meeting: Hold the best meeting you’ll ever attend with the people you love the most. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/emotional-fitness/201209/10-tips-holding-family-meeting

Gottman, J.M. & Silver, N. (2015). The seven principles for making a marriage work. Harmony Books. 

Petriglieri, J. (2019). Couples that work: How dual-career couples can thrive in love and work. Harvard Business Review Press. 

Was this resource helpful?

Let us know your thoughts so we can improve our content for others.

Please check all that apply
Please check all that apply

Related Resources


Coparenting in PSP Families

Topics: Family


Communicating With Children

Topics: Family


Supporting Wellbeing

Topics: Family